Boost Self-Confidence for Emotional Strength
How to Boost Self-Confidence for Emotional Strength is the ninth in a series of ten articles from the book Women’s Emotional Wellness by Robert Hoffman
Boost Self Confidence for Emotional Strength
Women have come a long way from the ‘burn the bra’ days. While some of these women were able to successfully break free from oppression, there are still those who lack faith in themselves.
While the world is learning to respect women for what they have accomplished; it is sad to note that this is not yet enough to make women all over the world ooze with self-confidence. If you can muster enough courage to walk into a room even if you are aware that you do not look perfect, then that is self-confidence.
Self-confidence or self-esteem is an essential component of emotional strength. As most people are aware, you can be full of confidence in one instance and not have any confidence in another. Self-esteem comes from knowing you have what it takes to respond to any situation or challenge.
You may not be oozing with self-confidence, but you can learn to boost your self-worth by following these tips:
Be with Positive People
“Tell me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are.” This may be a cliché, but there is a hint of truth to this maxim. The company you keep does not only affect your reputation but also your thoughts and actions. If you have low self-esteem, there is a possibility that you will also seek the company of people who will reinforce your views.
You don’t have to abandon your friends, but if you truly want to build your self-worth, then steer clear of negative people until such time you have built enough self-confidence to not require external validation and have developed better filters.
Keep a List of Things You Are Thankful For
Life can be hard, but there are times when you only need to find the silver lining to realize that it is still a good life despite the challenges. You can start by keeping a list of things that you should be thankful for, no matter how trivial that may be.
Waking up to a new day is already enough of a reason to be thankful for. Being able to brew your coffee perfectly should be next on your list, and so on.
Be Kind to Yourself
Don’t be too hard on yourself. You may not be perfect, but you have your strengths, and you only need to acknowledge them, so they work for you instead of against you. While you cannot expect other people to be kind to you, there is no excuse for not being kind to yourself.
Use Positive Affirmations
One way to boost your self-confidence is through positive affirmations. You can do this by making a positive statement about yourself. You can do this orally, or by writing the positive affirmation on paper and then reading it every day. Keep these cards where you can easily see them the moment you wake up and when you retire for the day. A great place is on the bathroom mirror.
Accept Your Imperfections
You are imperfect, just like everyone else, and the sooner you accept that reality, the better for your self-worth. Once you accept this, you will be able to forgive yourself for committing mistakes in the past.
Make your failures a stepping stone to success. It is only when you accept your shortcomings that you give yourself a chance to grow and become a better person. There are things that you can’t control so focus on your strengths and what you can do to make yourself a better person.
There will always be people who will be better than you in various areas, and once you accept this, then you will be a lot happier and more forgiving of yourself. This does not make anyone else a better person than you. Make time to do the things you love to do as it will help you improve your self-worth. If you want to improve your emotional health, then it is time to take an objective look at yourself and recognize your potential.
Being competitive is good but only if it pushes you to do more. However, it should be coupled with acceptance, and in acknowledging that you are not the center of the universe. But no matter how insignificant you are, you can make a difference in the life of other people. And once you learn to accept this, then you will be happier and more confident in your imperfections.